After two months, we have decided to suspend our weekly Sunday Scoreboard feature. It wasn't an easy decision to make, as we greatly enjoyed recapping our weekly sexcapades as we wrote each post on Sunday mornings. We enjoyed choosing images to complement the text. We enjoyed the feedback we received, not only on the blog, but on Twitter as well.
In the end, there were far too many reasons not to continue with it. The first reason is simply that a lot of effort goes into it each week. Beyond writing the actual text, each Scoreboard included pictures, and some included embedded tweets. Formatting everything in just the right fashion was frequently a challenge. As the weekend also sees us working on Sinful Sunday, adding such a comprehensive, labor-intensive post seriously impedes our ability to actually relax and enjoy our weekend.
Make no mistake, we have no problem with hard work, especially where this blog is concerned. But we want our sex life to be fun and rewarding. And while writing our Sunday Scoreboard didn't exactly reduce the fun of our sex life, to some extent it did change the way we have sex. Initially, we liked the idea of being, for lack of a better word, accountable to our audience for the sex we did have. We thought that having a regular recap feature might motivate us to have more sex, or better sex, or more imaginative sex. If readers were waiting to see what kind of adventures we had during any given week, that might help keep us from getting complacent.
Instead, however, we found ourselves taking notes during sex, or more often immediately following sex. We found ourselves asking, "How would this fit into the Scoreboard?" Jack would occasionally ask me, "What are you going to say about that on Sunday?" Once we were finished having sex, I found myself jotting random thoughts into the notepad app on my phone. If we finished up in the shower I might be distracted as I tried not to forget my feelings about a really intense orgasm until I could write them down.
On her blog this week, Liza Bennet answered a Formspring question about the effect of blogging on her sex life. While the blog is a part of her sex life, she stated that she and her husband do not have sex for the sake of the blog. This sentiment resonated with Jack and I. We have always been wary of losing our sexual spontaneity, and while thusfar we haven't, we wonder if that would have been a long-term effect of a feature like Sunday Scoreboard.
We are also afraid of seeming boastful. While all of the feedback we've received on Sunday Scoreboard has been good, we realize that by discussing at length our sometimes abundant sex life we run the risk of coming across as arrogant jerks. There is at times a fine line between pride and pretension, and we are not trying to be haughty. That's a turn-off for us, and we imagine it's a turn-off for others as well.
The last eight weeks of Sunday Scoreboard were a lot of fun for us, despite the hard work. But closing it now, after two months, allows us to call it an "experiment" and walk away from it as though we completed a stated task, rather than be quitters. The truth is that after the first couple weeks, we had doubts as to how long we would be able to sustain Sunday Scoreboard anyway.
On the plus side, this will allow us to write more spontaneous posts about our sex life. Last week's Sunday Scoreboard began with one of the most frustrating sexual episodes we've ever experienced, but ended with monogamous group sex. Rather than lumping them into a sex diary, it would have been much more fulfilling for us, and presumably for you as well, to make these very unsual experiences the subjects of their own posts. We regret not doing that.
If we enjoy a particularly rousing mid-afternoon sixty-nine, or a blowjob on our balcony in the pouring rain (something we'll be doing just as soon as this post is published), we can write about it right away rather than waiting until Sunday. If we ever leave the baby with a babysitter and spend a weekend remembering what sex was like before parenthood, we can write about that as well, rather than burying it.
If you enjoyed Sunday Scoreboard, we're sorry to give this feature the axe. But ultimately, this will improve our blog.
-Jill
8 comments:
I totally understand the experimental aspect of it and the reasons for quitting. For me if I had to keep track of each orgasm, or sexual escapade it would become a chore. For that reason alone I would never start.
I enjoyed your "scoreboard" posts very much but understand your reasons for stopping it. Keep having fun.
As much as reading your scoreboard made me a wee bit jealous,I enjoyed reading it. Sad to see it go but I understand and respect your reasons for quitting.
I am also sooooooo guilty of having a notebook and pen by my side to quickly jot down everything as it happened for post purposes LOL. I can openly admit it now that you have.
Having done a week's sex diary I totally get why you are stopping. It's a LOT of work! We look forward to your spontaneous emissions.
I second Sxybklvr and Liza's comments.
In truth, I never commented on a Sunday Scoreboard, mostly because I remain in awe of how much sex you guys do have, and could never think of an intelligent enough comment other than to ask you how you do it.
I know you both well enough to know you were never bragging, or rubbing it in anyone's face, so don't even worry about that aspect of it.
In the end, as always, I'm a huge proponent of doing what makes you happy. I'm glad to see you guys did exactly that.
I love all of the honesty in this post and your reasons for stopping something like this are completely valid. I hope this gives you a little more time for each other, which is what we all want in life!
I was and still am and huge fan of the Sunday Scoreboard. Even doing my own take on for a while there as well. But I do understand your reasons behind discontinuing the posts. :)
While I'm sad to see the Scoreboard go down, I totally get it. When something within the blog stops being fun and feels like work, it's time for a change. And now we'll get lots of little updates that are fun!
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